The world is competitive, especially if you’re a woman trying to make strides. Use these tips to build your confidence and you stand out from the crowd.

Valerie RiveraBeing a strong woman in a world full of people ready and willing to push you down can really take a toll on your confidence. I literally just finished reading Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert after much procrastination and watching the movie 500 times. I was inspired by her story, especially her trip to India that led her to regain her confidence. It is important to remember that we are beautiful, sassy, smart, innovative, movers and shakers of our environment. But there is that one day that you are feeling just a bit down. Here are some ideas to pick you up when you’re not feeling top-notch.

Dress the way you feel

It is amazing what clothes can do to our self-esteem. Have you ever looked in the mirror and said to yourself, “Damn, I look good”? Ladies, you can sincerely feel like this all the time. You know how the saying goes; “dress for the job you want.” The same goes for your mood. Dress for the mood you want to have. If you want to feel sexy, slip on that thong you know makes you feel like you are being a little naughty and it will exude on the outside and if you want to feel like you can take over the world, put on a power suit.

Drop the negativity

It’s sometimes hard to see when people are bringing you down, especially when you’re a women. We all get caught up in the drama and gossip in the world around us. It’s so easy to just get sucked in. I mean that’s why reality TV is so addicting. We love to revel in someone else’s life when its worse than ours. Well snap out of it!

I know it can be difficult to get rid of friends who might be bringing us down as well but you have to remember that friends sometimes come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. If the reason is up and they are bringing you down, it’s time to move on. Exuding confidence is all about YOU not the other person. Trust me, I am guilty of being a people pleaser but I know when to drop my losses. Walk away from the negative talk and get yourself back in stride.

Talk to yourself

That’s right, I said it. Look in the mirror and talk to yourself. Find a mantra that works for you like, “I am beautiful, no one today is going to bring me down” or “I am going to take over the world”. Whatever it may be, make sure its a positive, reassuring mantra that you are going to say to yourself. The most important thing about this routine is that you have to do it daily and you have to believe it. If you don’t believe it, repeat it again until you do. Positive self talk is so powerful

Hit the gym

You don’t necessarily have to go to the gym but work out. Do something. Get off the couch and get moving. WebMD says that working out releases endorphins which basically means it releases a chemical that makes us happy. The same chemical that makes us smile when we hear a baby laugh. Not only that, but after working out for a little while, you’ll feel better about your body, you’ll have more energy, and most importantly, you’ll be more confident.

Surround yourself with positive people

The best friends a girl could have

Valerie RiveraI recently heard from someone you should surround yourself with people who are smarter than you. I have always been a strong believer in having friends and significant others who bring you up and not bring you down. I have been blessed with a great set of friends and every time we’re together, it just reassure how awesome they are. They are smart, beautiful, positive women with the most amazing hearts. It did take a while to get the negative people out of my life and it was worth it. Find a mentor, surround yourself with amazing people, and your confidence will be the last thing you worry about.

Keep in mind these are just tips. If you going through depression, please seek professional help. From someone who has experienced depression before, it might be hard to get out of your own way when you’re feeling down in the dumps.

Stay sassy, confident, and remember you are the most beautiful woman in the world!

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About the author

Valerie Rivera

I am a Certified Matchmaker based out of Orlando, Florida who is in love with falling in love. I feel my calling in the world is to help those get through the tough times and to celebrate the wins. All with a hint of positivity. My content is dating and relationship related ranging from getting into the dating world to balancing your marriage when you are attacked with outside distractions.

I am currently married and a dog mom to an American Bulldog named Rosco.

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  • It’s refreshing to hear, reality and hardcore issues!! Yes, I need to get in the gym, take a walk, and get off the couch. No woman, mother, wife, or professional/entrepreneur can be lazy. There is no way we can be lazy, however we have to remember our needs and what we need. Tha k you for this, soooo needed it and yes, I am going to seek a life coach and/or counselor for what O believe is depression.

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