Mommy is not here today. Say no to makeup, hair and getting dressed altogether. Nothing about this day is pretty… well, except for the fact that I can do whatever I want, which is nothing at all.
With all of the nonstop movement in my home and work life, some days I dream of staying in my pajamas, no shower, no doing my hair, no makeup, no husband and no kids! I just want to lock myself in my bedroom, watch my favorite shows in peace while a babysitter plays my role for a full day. Well, every few months, I actually get to live out this dream. I take an ugly day because I think I deserve it. Nothing about this day is pretty… well, except for the fact that I can do whatever I want, which is nothing at all. It’s my way of detoxing all of the stress and for just a few hours I can go back to the days before marriage and kids existed for me.
For one ugly day I can act as if I have no responsibilities. I prepare for this ugly day by making sure the babysitter has no questions for me. I lay out the kids clothes, give them baths the night before, make sure the refrigerator is stocked, and my husband plans to either leave the house or stay outside of the bedroom! Everyone is good! I wake up. Maybe I’ll brush my teeth or maybe not. I’ll make sure I’m wearing my favorite and most comfortable pajamas, go downstairs and put my breakfast on a tray with my favorite coffee, grab some bottles of water and sneak back upstairs and shut my door before the kids even wake up. Mommy is not here today!
The night before my ugly day, I checked all of my emails and made sure all of my office work was complete. The mailbox is empty, bills are paid, and I’m not accepting any calls whatsoever; unless it’s an emergency of course. A lot of planning and preparation must take place in order for this ugly day to go smoothly. It’s all worth it in the end.
There are many positives for the entire family that are a result of this ugly day. Not only do I feel well rested, but also there is a new feeling of gratitude that flows through my home. We all needed a break. As wonderful as we moms think we are, sometimes we get on the nerves of our husbands and children with all of our “particulars.” We needed this ugly day to put life back into perspective, recharge our brains, and feel appreciation for ourselves. Who doesn’t deserve a break from reality, even if it’s for a few hours? Why should I feel bad about taking a day off from feeling like I have to impress the entire family? We hardly ever take a break unless we’re forced to as a result of sickness, and even then, we’re still the first to wake and the last to go to sleep.
Now my ugly day is over. I wake the next day more motivated than ever. I’m the first one awake and I have plenty of time to shower, do my hair, apply some makeup and pick a cute outfit. I’m more energized than ever and I can’t wait to kiss all over my husband and kids. I missed them and they missed me. Everyone has smiles on their faces. To my surprise, they SURVIVED! My husband survived a full day without his wife and my kids survived a full day with the babysitter. It was the break we all needed.