What Do You Do All Day?

What do I do all day? I wish I could say I’m laying by the pool sipping on my favorite cocktail while a butler holds grapes that dangle over my head, waiting for me to say, “I’ll have some more please,” while the kids watch themselves, but that is more fitting for a movie. What do I do all day? This is probably the most annoying question any stay-at-home slash entrepreneur mom has to answer. Especially when most days are a complete blur, but you know you’re nonstop from the moment your feet hit the floor, until 18 hours later when your head hits the pillow. What do I do all day? In between changing diapers and potty training, making homemade baby food, prepping and laying out clothes for my kids for school each week, washing clothes, prepping meals (whether I cook them or reheat them from the previous night), signing checks for personal and business bills, maintaining my home (Scheduling landscaping and lawn care maintenance, gutter cleaning, HVAC system checks, checking the sprinkler system, restarting the Pool Service, and other homeowner responsibilities… times 4, etc.), giving my kids baths, brushing their teeth, maintaining their nightly routines, seeing them off to school, maintaining their morning routine, scheduling doctors appointments and follow ups for myself, my husband and the kids, attending school functions, helping with homework, researching and applying natural remedies, washing and braiding my daughter’s hair (a two day process reserved for the weekends), planning and executing date nights for myself and the hubby, while also dealing with a very cranky at times teething six month old baby… Oh and caring for myself, I’m also working on my business, Not For Lazy Moms. You know, the usual mom stuff!

When it comes to my business, I’m also writing articles for Not For Lazy Moms, working on my first book, planning and writing out goals and functions for our app, game planning for the full out vision, brainstorming new content for social media and our other platforms to keep our community engaged and happy, conducting conference calls with my team and conference calls with entities I’m trying to add to my team, creating and reviewing necessary legal contracts for our team and the website, calculating the start up costs that I’ve contributed and the additional cost that are needed, reviewing hundreds of contributor submissions, reviewing resumes, planning out podcast episodes, scheduling studio time and recording podcasts, writing scripts for promo and how to videos for the website and social media, reviewing and editing those videos, conducting all day video shoots for the Not For Lazy Moms website, reaching out to possible sponsors and partnerships with other businesses, organizing live podcasts, obtaining the right marketing material for those events, obtaining products for our monthly giveaways, researching topics, all while filming a reality TV show, doing press for said reality TV show which sometimes requires traveling, responding to and engaging with the supportive RHOP viewers on Instagram and Twitter and, finally, promoting my personal brand and business. All while spending actual quality time with my family so my kids never feel how busy I truly am.

What I do requires being able to maintain creative space in my brain which is hard at times when you’re trying to care for your children, who are often times fussy or whining for your attention. Sometimes things have to be pushed off to the next day with hopes that you’ll have enough hours in that day to finish the projects you’ve started. While it’s nice to have the option of paying for people who can help, learning how to delegate those tasks when you are the person that’s the visionary for your company while it’s in its beginning stages and while you have the desire to be that full-time mom to your kids, and the best wife to your husband, if that applies to you, nothing can take the place of ME. There are no dollars that can hire another me. And I won’t spend money on replacing my role as a mom to my kids by hiring a nanny and I DARN sure won’t have anyone to replace me as being the wife to my husband. What I will spend money on is having a “family assistant” here that can do what is easy to delegate, such as running errands, going to the grocery store, prepping my kids’ breakfast and lunch while I’m getting them ready for school or while my husband and I give them their baths. I wash my clothes, but having someone to fold, iron and put them away has been invaluable! Shout out to all of the moms out there who know what it’s like to have more than one child and how laundry piles up especially with a newborn… you know what I’m talking about. Having an office assistant has been great being that I can’t always be in two places at once and who can stay on top of making sure the mail gets checked, the bills are acknowledged, and the houses are maintained for annual repairs.

With my baby strapped to me in his baby carrier, pacing the room literally as we speak, killing two birds at once, as he drifts off for his first nap and I speak into my phone using dictation to record this article, is how the job gets done. To some, yes the grass always looks greener, but to get it all done still requires your time, which is limited, and there will always be sacrifices in order to achieve the goals you set forth. For me, my biggest goal is to make sure that my kids experience every bit of their parents as they grow older and never feel like they’re being placed on the back burner for the things I could not achieve before they were born. This is who I am… this is my story. I’m very grateful, very blessed, and very determined to make a difference outside of myself by using my platform to help others. Let’s be grateful for our individual journey and the sacrifices required because at the beginning and end of the day, we ALL make them. Now… What do you do all day?