As adorable and innocent as kids are, we also want them to be respectful, kind, and polite humans. So how do we correct them when they aren’t?
“To discipline… or not to discipline”
…that is the question! But really, as adorable and innocent as kids are, we also want them to be respectful, kind, and polite humans. The last thing we want to do is excuse poor behavior and allow whining to be acceptable. Can’t you just hear your child whine as soon as you read the word? It’s like nails on a chalkboard. So, when it comes to discipline and developing a routine and sense of structure for your child, how do you go about it?
Whether it’s tongue-lashing or time out- it is important to understand what discipline will mean in your household. Maybe this is even a conversation you have with your partner prior to having kids. You don’t always want to be the bad guy- you want your partner to be on your team and to be on the same page when it comes to raising your child. Things get tricky when you discipline and your partner just excuses the behavior. You need to work together and keep the communication flowing. And if you two disagree on the punishment, don’t argue about it in front of your child. You know those little ones know how to manipulate us and will use “mommy and daddy fighting about me” to their advantage. Gosh they know how to work us!
It is so easy to get caught up in the moment and immediately yell and ban the iPad for a week. But rather than letting your emotions get the best of you, take a deep breath and really examine the situation. Does the punishment fit the crime? Is my child overtired? Hungry? Is there a change in their routine? Keep your voice calm as to not escalate the situation and really think if there are outside factors that could be impacting your child’s behavior.
Now don’t think that every situation will be smooth sailing following the disciplinary actions. There will be times you stumble over your words and your child corrects you. And there will be times that it will be hard for you to keep a straight face as your kid is acting out. Just know that you are doing a great job and overall you are raising kind, loving, and respectful tiny humans. Bite your tongue (literally) when you start to laugh during the punishing- and remember that you are the parent! You got this!
Forgive and move on
When you discipline, always end it with a big hug and an extra I love you.
This is a great tool to use when calming a hyper or fussy child.
If you notice your child is overtired and overall grumpy, examine your bedtime routine. Maybe their bedtime should be earlier.
Communicate with your partner
Talk to your partner about how-to parent at different stages of the child’s life so you can be on the same page…and have those conversations in private.